Wednesday, September 2, 2009

This Post is About You...

I have been reading your blogs. SIGH. I have one thing to say to you all. GET A GRIP!

I have never read so much negative self-talk. Not even after the holidays when many of us went up in weight. It is like a depression has settled in among us.

I do not know what has happened to you in your life to make you think it is okay for anyone (including yourself) to talk to you that way. Would you let someone talk to your friends or children that way?

I know losing weight is hard and at times it really sucks. Been there, live it. But I embrace it now. I feel like I have to. Getting up at 4am and running with the dogs (especially when one of the dogs does not even want to get up) is not my favorite thing when I first start out, but once I get going it is fun to see how fast and far I can go before someone (my dogs are kinda fat) needs to walk. But you know what I do love? The way my thigh muscles (or quads) are looking. Reminds me a little of an actual runner's leg. Totally neato.

It also sucks to be strict with your caloric intake and give 110% while working out 7 days a week and not see the scale move (or maybe in the wrong direction). Know what doesn't suck? The way my ass looks in my new jeans because I spent all that time in kickboxing.

It sucks to use your own body weight against yourself. For instance, say that you do push ups (the hard way) everyday because they are one of the best full body exercises you can do. They burn, they are tough, they make you feel like you weigh a TON. Know what doesn't suck? My new guns. They are getting quite shapely. And showing my fat arms was a huge phobia for me in the past. So look at that bonus - conquering phobias.

Sometimes we just have to push through. Don't get depressed. Stop being mean to yourself. You can bitch all you want on your blog. I quite enjoy reading your profound thoughts - I don't care if whining is included. We can all relate. But the self-hate has to stop. That does you no good. That just makes your journey more difficult.

You need to take your negative thought and look at it from the other side of the coin. Not easy, I know. My husband and best bud have had to endure my negative crap for a long time. They never complain or tell me to shut it (and I have said it to myself a time or two). I am just starting to see things from the other side. It makes the journey a lot more enjoyable. Just try it. If you cannot think of anything good about you, email me or leave a comment and I will find something. Don't be your own worst enemy. If you are not nice to you, why should anybody else?

God, sometimes I am such a teacher. Just picture me in my denim jumper and necklace with wooden beads. Sorry about this post, but for real. Get a grip.

17 comments:

Shelley said...

"Would you let someone talk to your friends or children that way?"

This says so much! I agree, it's hard to see so many beautiful bloggers beat themselves up. Wonderful post!

jo said...

FANTASTIC POST!!!! (Yes, I'm shouting, because it was that great.)

Melanie said...

Dang, I love brutal honesty!! Good for you for telling it like it is.

Monica said...

Kudos to you! Well said :) I cant believe you get up at 4am, now THAT is dedication!

Laurie said...

Love that post! You remind me of Jillian Michaels (in a good way)! :-)

Black Kitten said...

A-effin-men.

2Bmeagain said...

So true, so true. Great post.

Thank you for the lovely comments you left on my blog. As for my 2004 picture, I stayed in that weight range for about 6 to 9 months. That is when I was really close to my goal weight and I started to struggle. I kept going up a few, then down a couple. I think I may have maintained that weight if a bunch of major life changes (moving across the country, selling a house, a new marriage, finding a new job) didn't occur right then. After all of those stresses happening simultaneously the weight came back on really quickly. It's now four years later and I am still battling to get it off for good.

Hallie said...

Well done! I think you may have successfully changed some attitudes here :-)

Miz said...

I love it.

thank you for chastising and remind us.

the greater us.

the royal us.


Miz.

Diane, Fit to the Finish said...

You are exactly right. I said all those things to myself while I was trying to lose weight all the 500 times I was unsuccessful.

Great post!

Karen said...

Gotta be honest - I needed to read this post today. My exercise has been spot on and my half marathon training is going well - but I've slacked in my eating choices big time.

I commit to NO MORE EXCUSES when it comes to my eating. Chips do not make me feel better! I will probably make a similar post in my blog and link to this post of yours today because it's just what I needed! =)

Janet said...

Great Post! I really hope that people don't read my blog and think I sound whiny. But truthfully, I do have those Pity Party moments where I think this is SO UNFAIR, why can't I eat whatever I want and still be thin?!? LOL, then I realize I'm cracking up, and I get over myself!

athinnerkatie said...

I read your blog for about 3 hours last night, I hope to be in the place you are now next year. Thank you for posting this, as of right now I am upbeat and positive about this all. I just let myself take it one day at a time. Thanks again for you inpiration!

Katie

Jenn said...

Hell yeah, woman!

Christa said...

Thanks for the kick in the booty..LOL...I will remember that when I post...I tend to do that sometimes...:)

Priroda said...

Thank you for reminding me of what I have to look forward to after I put in all the hard work.

Hadley said...

I seriously love your blog an inordinate amount. You have just the right amount of mean with a ridiculous amount of awesome. You must be the best teacher ever.

Fabulous post.